Royal leadership | Wim Kamphorst

As a man. Choose what you usually do, not what you would like to do. Other version

1You face a setback or criticism of your work. How does your inner voice react?

True identity and courage

I coolly work out what went wrong and work harder to put it right. I quickly feel hurt or doubt myself. I defend myself or withdraw. My worth does not waver. I learn from the criticism and stay on course. I try to restore the atmosphere quickly, so no one stays disappointed.

2How open are you about doubts and weak spots with other men?

True identity and courage

I am a good listener, but find it hard to be truly open myself. I invest in friendships where we are honest and keep each other sharp. I keep my distance. Sharing my doubts feels unsafe. We mostly do practical things together, but rarely talk about what goes on inside.

3You notice you are under great pressure and at risk of overload. What do you do?

True identity and courage

I see my limits in time, rest without guilt and ask for help if needed. I try to spare everyone, but forget to take care of myself. I make a tight schedule and steer even more tightly. I ignore the signals until I am exhausted or short-tempered.

4You get into a heated discussion with your wife or someone close to you. What happens to your attitude?

Connection and honour

I give in quickly to keep the peace, even though something keeps nagging. I quickly feel misunderstood or put up a wall. I debate with arguments to prove I am right. I take responsibility for my own reaction and keep listening, without losing the connection.

5How do you set boundaries in time, energy or expectations?

Connection and honour

I put up hard walls and communicate mostly in a businesslike way. I say clearly what I can and cannot give, with respect for the other and for myself. I find saying no difficult, get overloaded and feel frustrated afterwards. My boundaries are very flexible. I adapt quickly.

6A friend or colleague does something that really bothers you. What do you do?

Connection and honour

I address it calmly and honestly, and seek restoration. I let it go to keep the atmosphere good. I bottle it up, and later it comes out the wrong way. I hold him to the agreements and the facts.

7What is your main drive when you build your work, family or future?

Vision and legacy

Seeking security, and the fear of falling short. Helping others and making sure the people around me are content. Stewardship: using my gifts for something that lasts. Sense of duty, putting things in order and reaching goals.

8You face a big change or an uncertain situation. How do you approach it?

Vision and legacy

I try to arrange everything in detail and get irritated when plans change. Uncertainty paralyses me. I hold on to what is familiar, even when it no longer works. I trust God and my values, and see change as an opportunity to grow. I adapt smoothly, but sometimes let go of my own vision too easily.

9How do you handle your time, money and talents?

Vision and legacy

I give a lot to others and often come up short myself. I see them as entrusted to me and use them deliberately for what lasts. I live from day to day and feel it slipping through my fingers. Tightly planned and efficient, but with little room for unexpected people.

10How do you contribute to the growth of the people around you?

Vision and legacy

I actively encourage others to use their gifts and try to be an example. I give advice and practical tips on how things can be done better. I am mostly busy surviving and keeping my own affairs in order. I offer support and create a pleasant atmosphere.